Joy may not emanate from spiritual exaltation (a state or feeling of intense, often excessive exhilaration or well-being) but secular (worldly rather than spiritual) satisfaction. Spiritual joys come on their own when the right preconditions exist. There is some self-love in wanting to be joyful at all times. Christ came into the world in order to be crucified out of love; first He was crucified and then He resurrected.
Joy is from Christ, whereas sorrow (mental suffering caused by loss, disappointment, or misfortun) is from the devil. When one is grieving because he is fully aware of his fall, and of the fact that he has grieved Christ, and he feels a ‘sweet’ pain within himself, this type of sorrow is from God.
When one feels constant sorrow along with anxiety (a state of uneasiness) and despair (to lose all hope), this sorrow is not from God. Godly sorrow (sorrow prompted by God) is actually a spiritual joy that brings consolation (comfort in sorrow, misfortune, or distress) to the soul, while sorrow which is not godly brings anxiety and dead ends.
God has not given sorrow. He has only given joy (intense happiness). When you forget Christ and your mind is constantly fixed on chores and the daily life, your spiritual machinery stops working. It is only near Christ that one can find genuine joy. Wherever Christ is present, that is where true joy and the delight of Paradise are present.
Those who are far from Christ do not have true joy. They may enjoy worldly honours or attend all sorts of events, but the happiness they feel cannot fill their soul. Worldly joy provides something temporary. Spiritual joy is life in Paradise.
The greater joy is derived from sacrifice (the act of giving up something to help someone). For one to truly rejoice spiritually, he must love, and in order to love, he must believe. People do not believe, which is why they do not love. If they believed, they would love; they would sacrifice themselves, and they would rejoice.
When you give love, then joy comes. One offers love and receives joy; he is rewarded with the joy he feels. The joy felt when one receives is a human joy. However, the joy felt when one gives is a divine joy. When you love you rejoice (filled with joy), NOT the other way around (when you rejoice you love). And when love increases, then one does not seek joy for himself but wants others to rejoice instead. Love exists on its own, whereas joy is derived from love.
When you give love, then joy comes. One offers love and receives joy; he is rewarded with the joy he feels. You see, one person receives a gift and rejoices for that single thing. Another person gives everything away and rejoices for everything. The joy felt when one receives is a human joy. However, the joy felt when one gives is a divine joy. This divine joy comes from giving!
It is tacky to ask for spiritual joys (affecting the soul); they come on their own when the right preconditions exist. There is some self-love in wanting to be joyful at all times.